He's done it again. You're enraged, and you tell yourself this is the last straw. You're looking through your phone for the number of that Colorado Springs lawyer you said you would contact when you've finally made up your mind. Is it really time to call it quits?
Don't decide in the heat of the moment. Mentioning the word "divorce" around your spouse or your children may set off alarms that you can't put out once you've calmed down. Here are some things you can do to help you decide:
Enjoy a Solo Staycation
Sometimes all you need is a break to clear your head. Use this time to reflect on your marriage, especially its ups and downs. If you're not sure about what to do, don't think about the divorce while you're on your staycation. Just relax and have fun. Do anything that makes you happy. You can make that call to your divorce attorney after you've returned from your time out.
Spend One Night with Your Spouse
Marriages end all the time, but it doesn't mean you should not give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they're just stressed. Maybe you're both swamped with responsibilities at work. One night out with your spouse to go to a movie or have dinner can get you two talking. Who knows, maybe you're on the same page when it comes to divorce, and the process can be easier?
Get Advice from Your Parents
Your parents may have been successful at making their marriage work, or they may have divorced a long time ago. Whatever their situation, you can learn from their decisions and mistakes. Ask them if they regret getting a divorce, or if they think they should have done it sooner. Lay down your situation as truthfully as you can, and take their advice with a grain of salt. You should still make the final decision.
Some marriages reach their end, and that's okay. Take all the time you need before deciding on a divorce. You'll thank yourself for not doing anything in haste.